Words not to live by. Should, Must, Need!
We get so caught up in these words that they actually end up suffocating us.
Just think about it for a moment:
Should – puts so much pressure on you. No it didn’t happen that way so why beat yourself up about it.
Must – Another pressure word – why must you do it. You get more out of every situation if you want to do it.
Need – Whilst this word isn’t as bad it can still be a pressure word. Do you really need something, I believe it comes back to want.
Yes in a perfect world these words wouldn’t have such a huge effect on us but this world isn’t perfect and we heap more pressure on ourselves.
When you use Should Must Need it puts pressure on you if you turn it around to Want then the situation changes totally.
I am taking these words out of my vocabulary to take the pressure out of my life.
If something happens well it happens – no use stressing about it. Find a solution and get on with creating that solution.
I always turn must into want – then I don’t feel pressured to do something, or that I have to do it. When I do something I want to do I always feel better.
Need – this word for me conjures up “lack”. My life isn’t lacking and I don’t want to think of my life as lacking once again I put it back to wanting do something. Wanting to do something is far easier than “having” to do it.
Yes they are just words however words create the story you tell yourself and the life you create for yourself and that life is much easier when you are kinder to yourself. And isn’t that we want for our lives and the lives of our loved ones.
Our caring journey doesn’t have to be about should, must or need. The language we tell ourselves is one of the most important conversations we have.
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