Do I tell them? Seriously I want to know.
Recently I had to have some medical tests done and I didn’t know if I should tell my 19 year old son about the tests.
Just as I am debating this very question I flicked over to MASH and one of the characters is going through a situation where his father is ill yet he his father didn’t tell him. He didn’t mention about the tests he was having and being so far away the son felt helpless.
Its not that bad really!
No my situation isn’t that serious and all will be well but it has raised a number of issues for me.
My son and I don’t live in together anymore, we are in different states – yet he is my next of kin.
One of the biggest gripes I had with my parents was that they never told me what was going on medically, they wanted to shield my sisters and I. Should I do the same with my son? I’ve been pondering this for a few days now and as I look back I recall how much I hated not knowing and how I built the situation up to be worse than it was
No I don’t want to worry him over something little however he should know what medical issues are going on. I want to be able to share things with him, if I am apprehensive or scared. No I don’t want to worry him but we are a small family and he needs to know certain things. Also I am shocking at keeping secrets – he always knows when I am keeping something to myself.
By being honest and letting him know what is going on he will be able to trust me in all things and I am showing him that I trust him with what is going on in my life
Yik! This is a dilemma.
What are your arrangements with your loved ones? Have you spoken about it?
By the time you read this I will have spoken to my son and asked him what he wants – to know or not.
Footnote:
Tell them. It is better for you and better for them. It is the fear of the unknown that is the hardest. They see the difference in you but they don’t know why. Tell them. I told my son and I have promised to always tell him as he has promised to always tell me. No secrets.
With our aged loved ones we want to know their business… isn’t it the same with our kids too.
